Bernie and I made the final decision to keep it April 9th!
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
February or April?
We just got news from our priest and it is a big possibility to get all of our marriage classes completed before Feb 25th.
So now, the question is:
February or April?
Feb 25th or April 8th?
HELP!
xoxx
So now, the question is:
February or April?
Feb 25th or April 8th?
HELP!
xoxx
"Dang it, does this mean I need to learn how to spell 'February?"
Today has been a wonderful and very successful day, however Bernie and I have a lot to think about.
Last night, it kind of hit Bern that we're only going to live together for a month and a half before he deploys.
If there is one thing that I have learned over and over and over again from any Army Wife it is this: HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING PLANNED FOR THE TWO (2) WEEKS PRIOR TO THE DEPLOYMENT DATE. Nothing, nothing at all. No work, no luncheons, no last minute road trips, nothing. Now, the reasoning to this is because our families are going to be at a high stress level...everyone will be. No one knows what to do, what to expect, how to budget time wisely. The last thing I'm going to want is to be away from him so as I pass along the advice I've been told, block out those two weeks before he deploys, hunny because you're never going to get those two weeks back and you want to be readily available to do anything for your hubby and his family.
Having that said, Bern and I know that it's not going to seem like we have 6 weeks together as newlyweds because he'll have his Army buddies calling him and wanting to hang out, he'll have his family, and his non-Army buddies wanting him to come out for a beer, his unit is going to do last minute training, and packing, and standard pre-deployment things and stuff like that. So really, we're going to have what will seem like a couple hours as husband and wife before he heads out.
Now, again, having all that said, Bernie brought to my attention that even though I was joking yesterday about have a January wedding because I loved the way a table setting was displayed, we should move the wedding.
He was serious. I couldn't believe it. "Not in January," he says because you run into SO many weather storms in Nebraska and you never really know when they're going to hit. "Not in March, because I have 21 days of training in Grand Island," he says. "I know what about February......the 25ht?" My first reaction was, "Dang, this means I need to learn how to spell February."
I know you think we're crazy and nothing is set in stone. We're going to talk to our priest about getting on the fast track for our premarital courses/marriage classes and see if it's possible to accomplish the classes in 4 months. In the past I have heard that they take 4-6 months....good thing we're meeting with our priest on Friday for our first marriage meeting because Feb 25th is exactly 4 months from today.
The thing that makes my feel like our day was so successful is that WE FINALLY FOUND OUR RECEPTION HALL!!!!!!!! AHHH! I'm so excited!! And it's only 2.6 miles from the church! I gotta keep you on the edge of your chair a bit so I'm not going to tell you quite yet where the reception site is. You'll have to wait until is completely set in stone...along with whatever date we decide! So much to think about this week!
Anyway, I hope you had a great Monday!
xoxx
Last night, it kind of hit Bern that we're only going to live together for a month and a half before he deploys.
If there is one thing that I have learned over and over and over again from any Army Wife it is this: HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING PLANNED FOR THE TWO (2) WEEKS PRIOR TO THE DEPLOYMENT DATE. Nothing, nothing at all. No work, no luncheons, no last minute road trips, nothing. Now, the reasoning to this is because our families are going to be at a high stress level...everyone will be. No one knows what to do, what to expect, how to budget time wisely. The last thing I'm going to want is to be away from him so as I pass along the advice I've been told, block out those two weeks before he deploys, hunny because you're never going to get those two weeks back and you want to be readily available to do anything for your hubby and his family.
Having that said, Bern and I know that it's not going to seem like we have 6 weeks together as newlyweds because he'll have his Army buddies calling him and wanting to hang out, he'll have his family, and his non-Army buddies wanting him to come out for a beer, his unit is going to do last minute training, and packing, and standard pre-deployment things and stuff like that. So really, we're going to have what will seem like a couple hours as husband and wife before he heads out.
Now, again, having all that said, Bernie brought to my attention that even though I was joking yesterday about have a January wedding because I loved the way a table setting was displayed, we should move the wedding.
He was serious. I couldn't believe it. "Not in January," he says because you run into SO many weather storms in Nebraska and you never really know when they're going to hit. "Not in March, because I have 21 days of training in Grand Island," he says. "I know what about February......the 25ht?" My first reaction was, "Dang, this means I need to learn how to spell February."
I know you think we're crazy and nothing is set in stone. We're going to talk to our priest about getting on the fast track for our premarital courses/marriage classes and see if it's possible to accomplish the classes in 4 months. In the past I have heard that they take 4-6 months....good thing we're meeting with our priest on Friday for our first marriage meeting because Feb 25th is exactly 4 months from today.
The thing that makes my feel like our day was so successful is that WE FINALLY FOUND OUR RECEPTION HALL!!!!!!!! AHHH! I'm so excited!! And it's only 2.6 miles from the church! I gotta keep you on the edge of your chair a bit so I'm not going to tell you quite yet where the reception site is. You'll have to wait until is completely set in stone...along with whatever date we decide! So much to think about this week!
Anyway, I hope you had a great Monday!
xoxx
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Bridal Fair with Mom
My mother, Jill is the greatest woman I have ever met. She's the rock in our family and I love her to death! She really is the greatest Mom in the entire world! I never worry about being alone while Bern is gone because I know my mom will do anything to be there to comfort me in my lonely times.
Today, there was a bridal fair my mom and I attended. She drove into town to see all the venders and we even sampled wine and cake, delicious!
I have so many ideas about this wedding. There was a table set up with a wintery theme and I fell in love with it. I texted Bern and jokingly asked him if we could move the wedding to January. Surprisingly, he said that he'd be okay with it, we just really have to get a move on with this wedding. Don't worry. We're keeping it at April 9th.....for now.
I got a bunch of cool ideas and my mom told me about a website that has cool decorations for less. www.save-on-crafts.com I just checked it out and it's pretty cool!
Bernie is on his way over to look at more wedding stuff and do some more planning so I best be getting all the stuff out.
xoxx
Today, there was a bridal fair my mom and I attended. She drove into town to see all the venders and we even sampled wine and cake, delicious!
I have so many ideas about this wedding. There was a table set up with a wintery theme and I fell in love with it. I texted Bern and jokingly asked him if we could move the wedding to January. Surprisingly, he said that he'd be okay with it, we just really have to get a move on with this wedding. Don't worry. We're keeping it at April 9th.....for now.
I got a bunch of cool ideas and my mom told me about a website that has cool decorations for less. www.save-on-crafts.com I just checked it out and it's pretty cool!
Bernie is on his way over to look at more wedding stuff and do some more planning so I best be getting all the stuff out.
xoxx
Bernie's Rules
I really didn't think I was ever going to keep this blog a secret from Bernie, but I kind of just forgot to tell him. When I did tell him, he was very excited and told me that he has a few rules.
The first rule is that I HAVE to put up a new entry/post at least once a week. I'm okay with that rule. It'll keep me busy and Bernie really would like a new entry to read every week while he is away. I really didn't think much of it, but Bern is SUPER excited that he can read my feelings and things I go through every once in awhile in a different perspective. He mentioned how it's cool because it's like I'm talking about him as he's a fly on the wall kind of thing. Either way, once a week is the minimal standard.
The other rule was quite obvious but I can't give out any information about location or dates on here. I knew that was a rule, however, Bern won't be able to tell me much anyway so there is no way anything could slip online.
Third rule: I can't embarrass him. I laughed and told him it's my blog and I can really do whatever I want. I reassured him I won't try to embarrass him. :)
Mol
The first rule is that I HAVE to put up a new entry/post at least once a week. I'm okay with that rule. It'll keep me busy and Bernie really would like a new entry to read every week while he is away. I really didn't think much of it, but Bern is SUPER excited that he can read my feelings and things I go through every once in awhile in a different perspective. He mentioned how it's cool because it's like I'm talking about him as he's a fly on the wall kind of thing. Either way, once a week is the minimal standard.
The other rule was quite obvious but I can't give out any information about location or dates on here. I knew that was a rule, however, Bern won't be able to tell me much anyway so there is no way anything could slip online.
Third rule: I can't embarrass him. I laughed and told him it's my blog and I can really do whatever I want. I reassured him I won't try to embarrass him. :)
Mol
Monday, October 18, 2010
The journey of an intense experience
Hello and thank you for visiting my blog!
There are many reasons why I began to start this blog. My first and foremost reason is to help other men and woman who are going through the same thing I am by informing them about my expierence as a military wife. Another reason I really wanted to do this blog is to help me. I get so full of emotion and don't usually know how to express it. And I hope that putting things down on paper (well on blog) will help me cope with the intense expierence I'm about to go through.
To begin, I must inform you that I am not a military wife...yet. I'm getting married to a Chinook and Helicopter mechanic on April 9th, 2011.
Bernie and I have been engaged for two days over a month now and have been together for three and a half years. We met in high school of our junior year with a graduation class of 20 students. I'm sure you'll hear all about wedding details thoughout this blog because I am actually going to school to be an event planner, but I won't graduate until December of 2011.
Because of Military protocal, I will not be given any top secret details about where my husband will be based, or when he will be coming home for some R and R or home for good. What I can tell you is that he is in an avation unit based out of Grand Island, Nebraska and is in the Nebraska Nation Guard. Bernie is scheduled to deploy in the end of May, however he will be in the States for two months before going over to Afghanistan. He'll be gone for a year.
Yesterday, I went to my first FRG (Family Readiness Group) meeting in Grand Island. It was nice to know that I'm part of something; I'm part of a group of wives who are all having to part with their spose or boyfriend or father of their children or family member or best friend. The lady leading it all spoke about the emotional cycle that we should all prepare ourselves for and in all honesty, it's a ROLLERCOASTER of emotions. I won't go into too much detail there are 7 stages.
1st- Anticipation of departure
2nd- Detachment and Withdrawal
3rd- Emotional Disorganization
4th- Recovery adn Stabilization
5th- Anticipation of Return
6th- Return Adjustment and Renegotiation
7th- Reintegration and Stabilization
Thoughout my expierence, I'm sure you, as a reader, will be able to pick out what stage I, myself or you or my husband will be going though.
At the meeting, I caught myself wanting to burst into tears and the Military Family Life Consultant didn't even say anything that was intense. Later, I found out that Lissy (who I will mention later) was feeling the exact same thing. She explained, "This is the first time I've felt uncomfortable about their deployment."
Lissy is a wonderful person! Genuine all the way to the bone and the biggest sweetheart I have ever met. Lissy has been married to John, a flight engineer, for a little over a year now. John and Bernie are brothers and are deploying together in the same unit. John and Lissy live in Grand Island close to the base, where John works full-time. Lissy is like a big sister to me. I'm sure there will be tons of trips to her house with comfort food and movies.
Basically, I'm scared and not really sure how everything is going to play out. I'm excited to marry Bernie in April, but terrified of him leaving less than two months after we've started our new life together. I'm glad I'm not going through this alone. And I'm glad I have readers, somewhere out there, who are listening to the journey of an intense expierence.
Thanks for reading,
Mol
*Where families can get help: Military OneSource, DoD's 24/7 Call Center (1-800-342-9647, http://www.militaryonesource.com/)
There are many reasons why I began to start this blog. My first and foremost reason is to help other men and woman who are going through the same thing I am by informing them about my expierence as a military wife. Another reason I really wanted to do this blog is to help me. I get so full of emotion and don't usually know how to express it. And I hope that putting things down on paper (well on blog) will help me cope with the intense expierence I'm about to go through.
To begin, I must inform you that I am not a military wife...yet. I'm getting married to a Chinook and Helicopter mechanic on April 9th, 2011.
Bernie and I have been engaged for two days over a month now and have been together for three and a half years. We met in high school of our junior year with a graduation class of 20 students. I'm sure you'll hear all about wedding details thoughout this blog because I am actually going to school to be an event planner, but I won't graduate until December of 2011.
Because of Military protocal, I will not be given any top secret details about where my husband will be based, or when he will be coming home for some R and R or home for good. What I can tell you is that he is in an avation unit based out of Grand Island, Nebraska and is in the Nebraska Nation Guard. Bernie is scheduled to deploy in the end of May, however he will be in the States for two months before going over to Afghanistan. He'll be gone for a year.
Yesterday, I went to my first FRG (Family Readiness Group) meeting in Grand Island. It was nice to know that I'm part of something; I'm part of a group of wives who are all having to part with their spose or boyfriend or father of their children or family member or best friend. The lady leading it all spoke about the emotional cycle that we should all prepare ourselves for and in all honesty, it's a ROLLERCOASTER of emotions. I won't go into too much detail there are 7 stages.
1st- Anticipation of departure
2nd- Detachment and Withdrawal
3rd- Emotional Disorganization
4th- Recovery adn Stabilization
5th- Anticipation of Return
6th- Return Adjustment and Renegotiation
7th- Reintegration and Stabilization
Thoughout my expierence, I'm sure you, as a reader, will be able to pick out what stage I, myself or you or my husband will be going though.
At the meeting, I caught myself wanting to burst into tears and the Military Family Life Consultant didn't even say anything that was intense. Later, I found out that Lissy (who I will mention later) was feeling the exact same thing. She explained, "This is the first time I've felt uncomfortable about their deployment."
Lissy is a wonderful person! Genuine all the way to the bone and the biggest sweetheart I have ever met. Lissy has been married to John, a flight engineer, for a little over a year now. John and Bernie are brothers and are deploying together in the same unit. John and Lissy live in Grand Island close to the base, where John works full-time. Lissy is like a big sister to me. I'm sure there will be tons of trips to her house with comfort food and movies.
Basically, I'm scared and not really sure how everything is going to play out. I'm excited to marry Bernie in April, but terrified of him leaving less than two months after we've started our new life together. I'm glad I'm not going through this alone. And I'm glad I have readers, somewhere out there, who are listening to the journey of an intense expierence.
Thanks for reading,
Mol
*Where families can get help: Military OneSource, DoD's 24/7 Call Center (1-800-342-9647, http://www.militaryonesource.com/)
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