Article I found

This is an article I found through the FRG group on Facebook.  It's a good way to look at things during deployment.  Take a look.
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DANGER: Deployment Construction

November 8th, 2010 by Jacey Eckhart

When the kitchen floor buckled in our first house, my husband opened a giant hole in the subfloor to fix the joist. I promptly fell right through. I knew the hole was there. Told myself to avoid it. Fell right through.

That’s how I feel about depresso days during deployment. I know the emotional hole is there, and still, somehow, sometimes, I fall through. Like I did last Tuesday. By the time I got into bed I was missing Brad so much I felt bruised by it. I pulled my pillow over my head and blamed the Navy. Without this stupid deployment, I would clearly not be feeling so bad.

But the longer I huffed the fabric softener, the more I thought that maybe—just maybe—the Navy was not to blame for my crappola day. Brad was not even to blame for my crappola day.

Yup, I missed him. Who would not miss such a good guy? But if I really looked hard at my day, I could see that I’d missed a dozen chances to feel better. I missed doing the things I know that help me shake off a bad day. I let myself watch two episodes of Tosh.O. A Bones I had seen before. The new Glee. That’s three solid hours of TV. I didn’t make a dinner and call the boys to the table. I fixed some stuff and let them eat in front of the TV. I didn’t do the yoga that helps my back. Didn’t walk the dog. Did not eat a single vegetable unless you consider potato chips a veg. ( I do.) I didn’t just fall into the hole. I started digging deeper.

So I got out of bed and ironed three shirts—not every shirt in the pile. Just the top three. I felt better. When Brad is gone, he leaves a giant hole in the life of our family. But it is a necessary hole. He is away working on the foundations of our family. So am I. I just have to learn to avoid that hole, or climb out a little quicker.

Jacey Eckhart is a military life consultant in Washington, DC. She is the author of “The Homefront Club” and the voice behind the award-winning Military OneSource CD “These Boots.” Facebook Jacey or contact her at jacey@jaceyeckhart.com.

Trying to find the motivation to finish my end of the semester projects...

I know, I know.  One of Bernie's rules was that I had to write something in this blog once a week and I'm way overdue.
First off, the Engaged Encounter retreat was really good. Bern and I went in there feeling like we knew everything there is to know about each other (which was great) but the whole purpose of the weekend is to grow closer together with God and also learn more about each other's responsibilities with home front things, like finances, children, careers, etc.  It was a lot of fun and we definitely walked out of there feeling more confident in each other and more in love and more ready than ever to get married. :)

This past week was pretty low key.  I only had 1 class on Monday and two online quizzes (Got A's on both, woot woot) However, I did have to work a bit.

We found a reception hall for our reception that's half the price of the one we originally booked!  I'm really excited about it and it's actually in an easy location from the church! April is approaching fast!

Thanksgiving with my family was AMAZING!  Bernie was with my family the whole time because his family is in Washington for his sister's second wedding reception with the grooms parents and family.
My family ate a lot at my parent's house and then we had dinner at my grandparents' house and boy, did I overeat!

Friday was the Husker's Game (GO BIG RED)  Bernie and I went to that I we beat Colorado so Nebraska is going to the Big XII Championship in Texas on Saturday Dec. 4th...We play Oklahoma.

Yesterday I went back to my parents house and we played this crazy game of Catch Phrase, Password and Charades all mixed into one game.  It was loads of fun!  Almost peed my pants from laughing so much!

Today Bernie and I put up his Christmas tree in his living room and it looks silly but like "us."  Every year Bernie and I have a thing where we each pick out the ugliest Christmas ornament we can find.  As the years go by the tree will get uglier and uglier.  It's basically so ugly it's cute.

I'm suppose to be working on a couple projects that I have to do before next week, but it's so hard to find the motivation to get these done when all I really want to do is grab a quilt, sit by the fireplace and curl up next to Bernie with two big mugs of hot cocoa.

Anyway, I best be getting to those projects!

Happy Holidays,
xoxx

Bummer, dude.

Found out today that our recption hall was booked and we didn't know about it. 

It's our fault because we didn't put our deposit down right away.

Back to square one!

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Retreat! Retreat!

Wow! It's been a crazy week and the only that's been so crazy is school work.  The semester is finally coming to be close to an end and I have plenty of project due soon to keep me busy :s

Today, actually in about 2 and half hours, Bernie and I are off to a marriage retreat.  It's all weekend long, I'm actually really really excited about it, even though some friends that have gone through it say it's pretty straining.
I've heard that from 7 o clock tonight until 3pm Sunday afternoon, we don't do much but get quizzed on what we will do in our marriage and how we will handle probable problems.  I can't wait!

Sunday, when I get back home I'll make sure to update my blog all about it!

Have a good weeked!

xoxx

E-mails, comments, posts and messages...

Hello all,
First of all, I had no idea how many people actually read my blog.  I've recieved e-mails from mostly women, some men telling me that they like reading it.  Honestly, I'm super flattered, especially because I havn't gotten into too much detail about my life or what's going on with the military life, it's really just mostly this and that...kinda boring stuff.

I haven't had many comments, but I sure have been getting comments in messages.  So Thank you thank you THANK YOU

Thank you all for reading!

xoxx

Post Secret

I'm sure many of you know, but there is a website I am obsessed with.  It's http://www.postsecret.com/
and what it is, is people send in a post card to a man named Frank and he scans it and posts it at his website.

All the postcards are annoyomous.  Some are hilarious and some are not so hilarious.  New posts get put up every Sunday.  And this Sunday Frank posted a video of Soldier's secrets.

Check it out:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XG11XbSADXE

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Mr. and Mrs. Micky Jennings!

CONGRATULATIONS!!

Had a wonderful time at Bernie's sister's wedding this weekend!  She looked gorgeous!

Congratulations, Amy and Micky!

Perfect distraction

This week was a weird week.  Not really sure why is was weird, but it went by fast and I realize I have SO much more to figure out.

This summer, I have to do a 400 hour paid internship at any hotel or restaurant or airline/airport or cruise.  Basically I can go anywhere, but I need to get a job there for 400 hours.  I really thought I'd complete the 400 hours at Embassy Suites, where I work now, but I'm kinda wanting to be a little more adventurous while I can be.

Heres the timeline, however.

April 9th- Bern and I get married!!

May 26th- Bern deploys.

May 30th ish- I need to start my new 400 hour job.  

Is it a good idea to be away from home after sending my husband off to Afghanistan?

Should I leave Nebraska and have the perfect distraction of my new job?

My roommate Jordan, also the coolest girl I know is going to Colorado for the summer and we've talked a few times about me working in Denver or Castle Rock at a hotel.  Sounds great, right?

My aunt and uncle once mentioned to me that I should get a job at the Crown Plaza in Venture, CA (where they live) and live with them for the summer.  Perfect distraction, right?  Still with family, but far away from home.

Otherwise, I could be super adventurous and go to a cruise line somewhere or toward to east coast or something out of the country.

Lots to think about, and soon.

This weekend is going to be great!  Bernie's sister, Amy  is getting married on Saturday.  I'm going to Omaha to see her on Friday and help with last minute details and such.  Amy's brother's John and Bernie are at drill today and tomorrow and will HOPEFULLY make it to Omaha on time for the rehearsal...They are both in the wedding.

Lissy, John's wife is going to be there too.  We're both bridesmaids.  I'm kinda bummed because last night I found out the Bernie and John both have to go back to Grand Island for drill on Saturday night or Sunday morning. (Leaving around 4:00am) if they stay the night Saturday.

I never knew that Bernie had to go back on Sunday for drill so when he told me right before he left last night I was pretty bummed.  The thing that sucks about the Army and what makes it so hard is that when they have to go, they HAVE to go.  Something I just have to get used to.

Anyway, bring on the wedding!

xoxx

Time's Up

It's been a week.  I can't break Bernie's rule and so I must say something, but it getting late and I'm exhausted.  I'll write a long one tomorrow.

Good night
xoxx